Repair Man

There is nothing cute about being the Repair Man especially when you are a woman!

If you enter a relationship with hopes that you can change, fix or repair what ever little... lets refer to them as "issues" your partner might have, it's not a good idea.

They may be minor things to some, like lets say smoking or a bad haircut style, whatever it might be. Do you really want to spend the extra time and energy trying to change him? Is it worth it. Time is something that is valuable and should not be wasted, time is something you cannot get back.

The first thing you need to ask yourself, not him, is do I love or like this person enough to stick around if he does not change. So, if I invest a full year of time into a relationship and he is still smoking against my will, will I still love the guy and stick around? Have I forced him to lie to me about his smoking because he knows it will upset me? Are we both miserable due to this? Has this affected the relationship? Is this what I want? Am I happy? Answer all of those questions to yourself honestly and that will lead you to your next decision.

My advice is not to invest time in someone that you need to repair. People are not fix-er-uppers. If it bothers you now it will bother you five years from now. Let him be as he is, for in the long run he will do as such all on his own.

I say move on to someone that suits your life, needs and wants. If a man truely loves you, he would change all on his own without you having to ask, because he would rather change than lose you. That's love.