Weakling

You know... dating is about learning new things about other people and eventually meeting your match. Someone like you, but that challenges you and intrigues you to want more and know more about them.

You don't want to end up with the man that you feel is weak or weaker than you. I'm not referring to lifting refrigerators with my bare hands strong, but if you view yourself as a strong person, mentally, and physically, he surely needs to meet that level or surpass it.

Maybe it's because I'm a mom and am always problem solving or wiping someones tears away and saying that it's all going to be ok, but I don't want to be that way with my boyfriend. Once I see that then I look at you as a weakling.

Let me clarify, I am referring to controllable issues that to me are unacceptable like... economy is bad... next I get laid off... then I decide that I should drink in my sorrows and cry about it?!?!?! WRONG. First of all drinking is expensive. Two, STFU and get started on job hunting, common sense.

Now on the other hand, your cat was just run over by a car... yes, please do cry. Here is a tissue and a pat on the back, totally understandable.

 Not that I mean to be rough like that, but if I don't get the opportunity to cry, why should you? I will stare at you as you cry. I'm like a coach... "you done with that son, because we got to get back out there and finish the game".

In my case, there are children watching my every move, so should the example that I set be that I should cry about everything and get depressed.... No, that gets me no where. Instead, be calm and clear headed and be strategic and problem solve, and decide on important and crucial next steps.

Again, that might just be a "mom" thing, but it's how I get through difficulties. I need my partner to be as strong and reliable as me. I want a strong player by my side. A strong, smart, dependable reliable man. I will let you know if I find him.

Wish me luck...