Mountain Man

It's confusing to me as to why a man would put so much effort to pursue a woman to then mess it all up. He is determined that she is the one. The one, he wants to date, she intrigues him, she is smart, attractive and above all a challenge. Yet, it slips right out of his hands because he is not willing to listen.

I realize now that this guy was set in his ways. That was the issue. He had been single for over five years and had become used to having it his way all the time. Apparently there hasn't been anyone around to challenge his choices. I get it, I do. Sort of like a "Mountain Man" who has lived in the wilderness for years. Then all of a sudden the Mountain Man wants to start dating and have control on all and any decisions. Hello!!! what about your date??? Well Mountain Man, welcome to the reality of dating. It's 50/50 or nothing.

You cannot enter the word of dating and assume that you know what's best for all parties involved. In your mind you may think that you know the best restaurants, the best wines, the best romantic spot in the city. Yet, what a woman really finds romantic is to be heard, and acknowledged, as an equal voice in the relationship. 

It's a mistake to think, that you... Mountain Man,  know what's best for both people. Take a moment to clear your head. Ask yourself why you are single? Are you ready to date and share with another person? They too have much to bring to the table. You must allow for them to become a part of the 50/50.

Dating and love is a complicated, delicate game of balance. We must be heard and yet know when to listen. We must share what adventures we have experienced but also be willing to accept and learn from someone else's life experiences. Everyone that enters our lives is there to teach us something to remember forever. Take a moment to let it all in, and find your lesson in love. No one should want to be a Mountain Man, just so he can have it his way all the time. What he is going to find is more loneliness. 

Happy dating and thanks for following Marisa's Misadventures*