Dating Goals

Have you ever found yourself in a situation, while in the middle of a date, when you ask yourself why am I on this date??? I have nothing in common with this person, what was I thinking!!!  As daters we sometimes get to a point when we start to date the wrong people, because we would rather be actively dating than not dating at all. These type of dates never have a positive outcome.


While on these random dates you are not fully committed to your date. You realize that you are not even listening to them as they speak.  Instead you find yourself staring intently at his long nose hairs that you had not noticed before, or maybe he has a twitchy eye that is breaking your concentration. Either way it isn't fair to "Mr Twitchy" that you are just wasting his time and yours.


It's time for you to set some Dating Goals for yourself. You need to know the type of person you want to date and the type you don't. Make a list of a qualities that your hopeful dates should possess. If you stick to your dating goals, dating should become a better experience.

Setting Goals:


Choose a date that is your equal intellectually. You do not want to have a conversation with the dumb dumb who can barely count to ten. You also don't want to date the guy so intelligent that you find yourself taking notes, to be able to Google stuff later and figure out what the heck he was talking about.


Choose someone you have something in common with. Whether that common thread is a love of sport, music, travel, or food it will make for great conversations between the two of you. It will lead to learning more about one another.


Choose a date that is financially stable. By financially stable I'm referring to a person who has their own place to live, not sleeping on their buddies futon or in his car. A person who isn't hiding their car from the Repo man while on a date with you. It's awful when your date discusses how hard it is to earn a dollar throughout your entire date. If you can physically see the pain in his face when he is handed the bill, he shouldn't be dating.


Choose a date that you are attracted to. Not just in the physical sense. Something about that person should intrigue you to want to know more about them. Maybe they are funny and you find yourself laughing and entertained all the time they are around you. Maybe they are mysterious and sexy and you are curious to find out more. Maybe you just love that smile that drives you crazy when you see it.


Dating should be a fun learning experience, not a chore or a hassle. Love is meant to be enjoyed. When love and dating becomes something that makes you sad, upset or just plain miserable, it's time for a change. A change in your dating life that brings happiness and fulfilment.


Happy dating and thank you for following Marisa's Misadventures*