His Clock is Ticking Too!

I find it funny that we as women are always being accused of having a tick tocking biological clock that scares men away. Well in the past year I realized that men have one too, and they are not afraid to talk about it. And for the record, his clock does scare some of us away.


As you enter the dating world, you must know what you want from a relationship. You must also know what you DO NOT want. If you find someone that you feel might be the one, be prepared to share your long term relationship goals with that person. Sounds simple enough right.... wrong!


The key to this is to be honest. If you plan NOT to have children say so. If you plan on having ten kids, say so as well... just not on the first date! I suggest this because I have come across single men out here, in the dating world, that plan on finding that special woman to start a family with.


So ladies, I know that many of us, are divorced, or single, or single moms and have already decided that we are not having any more children, or any at all, for those of you who are child free and plan on staying that way. Be honest and don't lead anyone on and waste their time or yours.


DO know what you are getting yourself into:

• If he has kids, and you have kids, you will become the Brady Bunch.
• If he has kids, and you do not, you will become the Wicked Stepmother.
• If you have kids and he does not, do realize how stressful in can be on all parties involved.

Having and wanting children is very important to a couple. So do know what your expectations of family are and make sure that, the special person you have found does share your wants and needs. Make sure that he or she is your equal when it comes to life's big decisions. Unless one of you is willing to compromise, keep looking. Your special someone is out there, you just haven't found them yet. Don't forget that it's better to be alone than in bad company.


Happy dating and thanks for following Marisa's Misadventures*