Have you ever found yourself at the point in a relationship when everything is going great, you're happy, he is happy, and all of a sudden... he says "I want you to meet my mom"!!! Nooooooooo......
I have been there done that, mothers are always great at first, then they get comfortable and tell you what they're really thinking. Saying stuff like "so when are you going to pop out some grandchildren for me?" or "You look strong and sturdy you're going to be great"! Great for what??? Will I be doing farm work??? Scary.
A worse scenario is when you have to meet the parents at a restaurant setting. Just the four of you, at a table, sitting across from one another, smiling, having small talk with awkward silences here and there. So what do you say? What's too much information? Did I dress too sexy? Can I order a martini? Do they hate me? Are they comparing me to the ex girlfriend? Now can I order a martini? Did his mom just roll her eyes at me? STRESS!!!
What should you do at this point? Well, just take a deep breath... relax... pull yourself together. Then take a moment to realize how special you are to your boy/girlfriend that you have been asked to meet the parents in the first place. Be comfortable, keep all answers sweet and simple. Yes, it will feel like an interview, technically it is. Just stay in control of the situation at all times. You are amazing I'm sure and they will see that too. Don't let your nerves get the best of you. Definitely do not order that martini! Nerves and liquor shouldn't be mixed in my opinion, not on the first meet & greet with the parents anyway.
It's great to be asked to meet the family or best friends or anyone that is important to your significant other. Yet, the bottom line is that your partner is the only one you need to impress and win over, and he or she already loves you. So once again, stay in control of the situation. Suggest a more casual environment to meet, maybe at home or a back yard barbeque or the parents favorite restaurant or place to visit... wink, wink, extra points for you for that one.
Be classy and sweet and the wonderful, you that your partner fell in love with and the rest of the world will follow in their footsteps. It's the confidence in yourself, and the kindness you show for others that impresses the people around you. So just be you. This will be my next misadventure, I'll keep you all posted on how it works out for me... wish me luck!
Happy dating and thanks for following Marisa's Misadventures*
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