Change

You can't change people and you should never have to. Never go into a relationship with hopes or intentions that their little quirks will just fix themselves. The truth is they will not. 


I'm realizing that walking into a relationship hoping  people will change for you or to keep you is just unrealistic. If he likes to slurp all his meals as if they were all soup, well chances are he will continue to do this until he is old and gray. We cannot change people's bad habits nor should we have to. 


The whole point of my dating challenges is that I do not want to repeat the mistakes from the past. I did this in the past when I was young and dumb. I would tell myself "Oh' I hate the way he spits out the window when we are driving but I'm sure he will stop for me" or "I hate his ugly ass haircuts but I will help him and teach him otherwise" Well guess what I ended up with an asshole that spits out car windows and has ugly ass hair! I promised myself that I would never try to change another man again and I intend on keeping that promise.


I will stay single if need be... before I accept a man who keeps spitting near my pretty shoes YUCK!!!


We wouldn't want someone to ask us to be who we are not so why would we do that to someone else? Be who you are... you will eventually be loved for it.